To ask or not to ask, is that even a question?

Valencia was once asked by a fellow student "what's wrong with you?" without hesitation she responded with a "nothing, what's wrong with you?" I turned my face and giggled, I was both amused and proud of her response. 👏 We never discussed how to handle situations like this so her response was genuine and funny. If you know my daughter then you know that her heart is sincere. 

It did raise an interesting point however, how should one ask about her journey? 🤔 Whats the proper way and how do we welcome the conversation. We have no trouble discussing her journey but the way it is asked can be critical in the return response. 

Here are the best ways to ask should you wonder about anyone's health/ life/condition.

• Would you tell me about your journey? 

• What happened?

• Was she born this way or was there an injury?

Here is how NOT to ask unless you want the south side of where G and I come from to come out!  

• What's wrong with her? (Side note: nothing)

• Did she fall or something? (Yes, this has been asked)

• She can walk why does she need a wheelchair. ( insert eyeroll here) 

Remember that with most disabilities or families with disabilities, we are more than willing to share and discuss our stories (ie. Our blog). What we are NOT willing to accept is the fact that someone may think that there is anything wrong with them, because there isn't. They were made special, beautiful and different BUT not weaker! Ask away.